In order to help myself understand Kierkegaard’s, “Stages of Life”, I thought about how they pertain to me in my life. It seemed the most obvious to me that as concerned with my marriage, I been in each of the three stages. While me and my then girlfriend were dating she became pregnant and I can honestly say that it seemed that there was no other option other than to get married, I felt that this was a duty I owed to my girlfriend our families and to our coming child. This would be a good example of living in the ethical, because I believed an acted upon what I felt was the duty of a person who is going to have a child and is not yet married. Unfortunately though, as can be expected from a young couple such as us, there was turmoil in the marriage. After some time I lost my sense of duty to be married to the mother of my child. Thoughts that I had not actually chosen my now life plagued my head. I felt that the marriage and pregnancy were not my choices and I should seriously consider ending our marriage to seek a life that does not involve the work required to sustain a healthy marriage. Here it should be apparent, that my thinking was in the aesthetic. I was more concerned with the immediate pleasure that I could get from discarding the responsibilities that I had to my wife and child by getting a divorce. Thankfully I am not as stupid now as I was then, as time passed I never acted in the aesthetic and followed through with a divorce. My decision to stay in a relationship with my wife eventually came not from a desire of immediate pleasure or not just from a sense of duty to my wife, but from my love of what our marriage was. I had realized that the thoughts of not wanting to be married was a product of a human mind, which to heavily relied on pleasure to make decisions and not heavily enough on the desire to live a life without sin. My marriage brought me closer to my understanding of God, which in turn, enlightened me why I got married and stay married to this day.
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